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Guys who masturbate on chatroulette do you ever not get nexted?

I don't know if you guys do as well, but I'm just trying to bring some awareness to this. So, guys, here's some statistics to help you guys keep an eye on yourself. I think most of you can guess them. About 13 percent of all virgins today have their first experience online. That means 13,000 kids a year start the internet epidemic by using the internet. And the way I look at this is like this. A lot of these kids are being abused. I mean, it could be you. It could be your kid. It could be any adult around them. But the thing is, they're not being protected. The kids are not being protected. So in my view, online safety needs to be a public health crisis. Period. End of story.

Second, and this is critically important, is that this problem has several components. It can be understood in two parts: the creation of a false sense of self and the spread of harmful ideas. And I want to turn first to the creation of a false sense of self.

The first danger is obvious: the spread of an idea can lead to the creation of an actual false sense of self. A classic study found that if you gave people incentives to lie about how much money they made in a given month, or how much time they spent on a given idea, people would actually lie that they were happy with their work. Instead of being productive, they'd spend all their time researching how others were spending their time. In other words, the incentive to be lazy became a source of intrinsic motivation.

This is true not just in the United States but in a lot of other places. You might think that this is obvious. People are lazy. Lazy as in it's a virtue. They don't want to do the work. They want to be immune from the consequences of their actions. The problem is, many cultures actually have policies and norms that make lying about how much you make look bad and even sinful. Even child marriage is an illegal act that recognizes the value of consent and the importance of the false sense of self a culture is trying to instill.

This is an excerpt from The Myth of the Maligned Sex: Men's Experiences of Women's Sex by Julia Serano. This is such an insightful book, so much so that I've shortened it here for your convenience. Basically, a lot of guys have this sense that they don't belong in sex, and that they're somehow defective or lacking in their sexual agency. If you think about it, our earliest ancestors were able to have sex because they had complex, nuanced relationships with both men and women. They had multiple, conflicting sexual desires and needs. They had multiple partners. They orgasmed and they came close to orgasm with a variety of women. So this sense of multiple sexual desires and needs, combined with the need to